The inability to tell questgivers “no” or the fact that even if you try to be an ass about it as a way to tell them “no” you still get the quest details in your log.
So you were just an asshole and still get invited to the party.
Like if you don’t take the long way around you get bitched at by Aela outside Whiterun for not helping. This happened on my first Dragonborn mainly because I didn’t even see the fucking fight and by the time you run over they’ve killed the stupid thing, probably because if the giant got a hit in they’d go careening into the atmosphere.
Avaraad became interested and joined the Companions.
Elanna didn’t want to, not because she thought it “sounds like a waste of time” but because-
A) she’s more of a sneaky/stabby/arrows-from-a-distance kind of ‘fighter.’
B) Honour and glory and brothers-in-arms type scenarios don’t appeal to her, she likes working by herself and being quiet about it.
C) She can SEE what you guys are and no thank you, with her background that is a giant messy ball of NOPE.
And she would have just said “sorry, it’s just not my way” as a means of declining the offer in a non-asshole manner and gone on her merry way to report the dragons because someone apparently has to.
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