My character has been through a lot of shit. I’d get into specifics, but I fear that would single me out. At any rate, my character’s partner, who should have known this (considering I had laid it out in my character’s ‘headcanon’ page), decided to ‘experiment’, and needless to say the results WOULD have ended in disaster, but instead I had my character grudgingly accept it to keep the plot going on.
(Also I should note there was blatant disregard of rules of consent, I know they’re fiction characters, but my character may have been more inclined to try it if they had known and talked about it first instead of just springing it up on them.)
Gods, doesn’t this sound familiar?
“Instead of just springing it upon them.”
While the point of the original post is something I totally understand, that particular part really hit home with a specific happening.
I did a lot of RP on WoW when I was still playing. A good friend played my main’s lover and we went back and forth a lot with ideas and sessions. This included a staged death involving the lover, it was pre-planned, we both talked about it and knew that the lover would come back. So we were both prepared for the emotional drama.
Fast forward a few months and some development has resulted in the lover needing to see this shady character for help. I go along with my main, concerned as a writer and the character.
Skipping details, this incident ended with the lover being brutally killed and resurrected.
Being completely unprepared for this my only logical course of action was for the character to have an emotional breakdown.
And the moral of the story, kids? If it’s something like character death or something that will trigger a strong reaction, make damn sure your partner is okay with this happening to their character.