I don’t think I’m the first teenager or young person to have concerns and nervousness about things like this. But I feel like unless you get into it soon - like most of the girls in my country seem to be doing if meant-to-shock-you statistics and studies have anything to say - there really isn’t much to encourage a positive view of sex and your first time.
At least not anything readily available, this little post was sparked because of seeing this.
Well written and made for a slight softening of my fears. I say slight because I am still very prone to fretting and being incredibly nervous etc.
It’s the same with most things, the negative aspect no matter how small will still stay in your mind more often than it should.
More often than not I see people saying things along the lines of: “Your first time will always be a disaster” or “Your first time is always going to be humiliating.”
Now if you’re someone like me who is prone to thoughts of complete uselessness, inadequacy and general self-deprecation, this just goes on like a parade in your head. Either at the front of your mind or just trundling around at the back of your thoughts. But it’s still there, just rolling around “yes, it will be a terrible affair and it’ll totally be my fault, I mean I have no experience, I have no idea what the hell I’m doing and oh god they’ll think I’m so pathetic.” And so on.
There needs to be more of that post I linked and it needs to actually be a mindset that’s more widespread that just a few thousand people liking a tumblr post.
Else you get people like me who are terrified of how badly they’re going to fuck up and disappoint their first lover.